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terça-feira, 28 de maio de 2019

Multiple Jobs Holding You Back? How to Make It Work

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with you today.

So, tell us your question, and we are gonna do our best to
give you some advice and some

insight.

Fantastic.

Okay.

So, I am working full time as a marketer for a company as an
employee, nine to five.

I'm also, at the same time, working to build my business as
a watercolor artist.

My husband is also building a business as well, so right now
I am bringing home the

most of the money we use to live and pay the bills and
stuff.

We have four kids, two living with us at home.

I also have MS, but I'm really healthy.

I recently met with a business counselor at my local small
business development center

who told me, he said, "Your business won't take off
until you're doing it full time."

I think he's right, but that would require me to leave my
full-time job, and convince

my hubby that it'll all work out.

And maybe it could, but...

We have a little bit of savings, and we have a HELOC that we
can live off of, but that

makes me feel a little bit irresponsible, and a little bit
nervous.

So, should I take the leap and see what happens, or should I
patiently wait the course and

keep working on our business, until we get to the point
where it makes more financial

sense?

Pam, I adore you.

First of all, I love you so much for asking the question,
and providing so much context,

and for just having the bravery to go, "You know what?

I want to take a step back and really look at this."

So, I have so many thoughts on this, and I'll share some
ideas that hopefully will help

you find your own wisdom.

Because here's what I believe.

I will tell you, I got a little nervous when you said you
spoke to the business counselor

who said, "Hey, your business basically is not gonna
take off until you do it full time."

Respectfully, I disagree.

I think that there are many, many different ways to have a
business, quote/unquote, "take

off."

In fact, there was a study done by the Academy of Management
Journal.

They actually followed 5,000 entrepreneurs over 14 years,
and found that the ones that

kept their day job were actually 33% less likely to fail.

Now, of course that's just one study.

But I will tell you, the first thing that I want you to
really look inside for yourself

is around self-awareness and risk adverseness.

Here's what I mean.

I see people generally fall into two camps.

One camp are folks that, when they burn the bridge behind
them, when they quit that job,

when they must make a business work, when they must generate
money, that is when they

rise up.

So, having that financial pressure is actually a positive
thing for them.

Right?

Mmhmm.

So, they enjoy financial risk.

Some people are just built that way, and that's beautiful.

There's other of us...

And I will raise my hand.

I know you can't see me right now, you can just hear me, but
I'm raising my hand.

I'm in the other camp, where I am more financially risk
averse.

When I started my business, I had side jobs for seven full
years until I felt comfortable

enough, emotionally and financially, to leave those side
jobs and to run my business full

time.

Now, you shared with us not only do you have a husband, and
you have children, and there's

some things going on, and you're the main breadwinner right
now.

So, I just wanted to share that context, that if you look
back in your history, and of course

if you talk about this with your husband...

If you decide that maybe together, you guys are like,
"You know what?

We really do rise up when we have a lot of pressure.

That's when our best comes out."

Then, perhaps that advice from the business counselor may
actually be right and true for

you.

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But if you take that look inside and it makes you feel more
scared, and as though your creativity...

I know at least this would be true for me, where my
creativity almost goes down.

Right?

Where there's more financial pressure, because I'm operating
in a place of scarcity.

Then, that's not gonna be the right choice for you.

I always like to tell people, it's not about overnight
success.

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It's about getting great over time, and having patience, and
taking care of yourself and

your family.

You just can't underestimate that.

So, I don't believe I have the right answer, but I just
wanted to share some insights that

hopefully can help you find your own.

So, knowing your own risk adverseness, and ultimately, it's
about trusting yourself.

And then, I want to make one reference before I want to hear
some of your feedback.

We have an amazing MarieTV episode.

If you Google search MarieTV, How to Make the Best
Decisions, I walk you through four

specific tests that will help you know, both cognitively,
intellectually, spiritually,

and also from a visceral, kind of intuitive place, how to
find your best answer to move

ahead.

It includes working through some of the worst case scenarios
and some of the best case scenarios,

and also tapping into your body wisdom.

Which, as a painter and an artist, you absolutely have a lot
of.

So, I'm gonna be quiet for a moment and see what your
feedback is, and to see if there's

anything else we can do to support you.

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Well, this is very interesting advice, because I've heard
both.

Like you said, I've heard both sides of the story.

Either the pressure makes you rise up, or the pressure just
makes you freak out, and

you are not creative, and you kind of get stymied.

You kind of get stuck and stagnant.

Yes.

I read Big Magic twice, and in Big Magic, Elizabeth says
that you shouldn't put the

pressure on your creativity to support you.

And so, I really battled with that, and I thought,
"Okay.

If I put my pressure on my creativity, will my creativity
just be squelched?

Will that suddenly be like, "Okay, creativity, provide
for me"?

And she says you shouldn't ever say that to your creative
genius.

Whatever she calls it.

I can't remember.

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Daemon, or whatever.

Yeah.

Yes.

And so, this has been a battle for me for many, many years.

Because my husband and I ran our own business, like probably
15 years ago, and we were in

that place of, "Well, we'd better make some
money."

We were chasing down the mailman, "Do you have a check
for us today?"

You know, that kind of thing.

So, I understand the pressure of owning your own business
and running your own business,

and now that I'm older, and years wiser, I am a lot more
hesitant.

So, I mean, sure, the HELOC is there, and I have the money.

I could live off of it for a year, if I didn't make a penny.

But is that responsible?

I don't know.

I'm gonna watch your episode again, because I know I've
watched it.

I've watched every single episode.

Oh, I love you, Pam.

I will say that when it comes to finances, I tend to be...

And again, this is my own personal view, and I just want to
make that very clear.

So, I'm not trying to push it on you by any stretch of the
imagination, just share it,

since you wanted our perspective...

I think that it's really possible for you to kind of look at
your finances, look at

it with your husband, and work out like, "What is that
worst case scenario?"

You know, "What if we did use all that savings, and we
found ourselves at zero?

Is that the position we want to be in?"

You had mentioned you have a health challenge, as well.

I just want to make sure that you're safe and okay.

And I don't believe it's one or the other, right?

I don't believe that if you have a full-time job, that
you're not living out your dreams

or your highest purpose.

Again, I know that when I was bartending, waiting tables,
cleaning people's toilets,

I found a way to bring joy to those jobs because I knew that
they were funding my dream.

So I wasn't in a position of suffering, if that makes sense.

I wasn't in a position of, like, "I'm not getting to do
what I really want to do."

I was like, "No, I am so grateful for this, because
this is allowing me to create abundance.

It is allowing me to create a really strong financial future
for myself," knowing of the

place I want to get to, but not putting that pressure on
myself to get there right now.

So, I love you for being willing to go back to that episode,
and to actually do the exercises

that I suggest, especially the ones that are in writing.

Pam, please do them in writing.

Mmhmm.

Put down those numbers.

Look deep into that worst case scenario and ask yourself,
"Okay, if the worst of the worst

happened, could I live with this?"

And then, looking at it on the flip side.

"What's the best thing that could happen if I took this
risk?

You know, if I stepped away from this job, if we used up all
the savings and it didn't

work out, but perhaps the business really did take off.

What would that feel like?"

So, you have so much wisdom within you, and my intuitive
sense is that we just need to

dig deeper.

We need to unearth it.

We need to put it on paper and really sit with it for a
little bit, so that you feel

confident in how you're moving ahead, despite what me or
that business counselor or anyone

else says.

That's really good advice.

Thank you very, very much for taking the time, and really
connecting authentically with me.

I love the fact that you are just tapped in and totally
present.

Aw.

That's one of the things that I just, I totally admire about
you.

That's probably why you have so many fans.

Pam...

I've told everybody to go and sign up for B School.

In fact, I have two friends that have already signed up for
it.

Nice.

I want to do it again.

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Thank you so much for sharing that, Pam.

I think Zach wants to just maybe offer a few words of
advice, too.

He's here with me listening.

He got excited about you.

Well, I don't know if it's advice, or...

I mean, it sounds like there are a lot of pressures, like
having four kids, and managing